We decided to split the family in two this weekend to get a break from the sometimes hard job of taking care of three children at the same time. Since we don’t have family around to take care of the kids once in a while, we have to come up with other ways to break the routine and get a little bit more of personal time.
This weekend, Miguel took Feromsa to the mountains while I stayed at home with Feven and Dylan. It’s easier to just concentrate in one small kid at a time.
Even when the weather has been dry and sunny these last days, we are having quite a cold wave, with temperatures below freezing everyday.
I try to take Feromsa and Feven to the park no matter cold or rain, because they need some place to run and burn some energy, so this time I’m really enjoying staying inside the warm house at least for a couple of days
Feromsa has been fighting a lot, with everybody, so I also needed a break from that. He is going through a tough period, and I hope it’s temporary. He fights even when all his needs are met. He refuses to eat, to go to bed, to dress, take a bath, whatever is that we want him to do and that’s affecting the normal life of our family.
We don’t really know what’s going on and why he gets so destructive, banging doors, throwing things and hitting his siblings.
Most of the time the only one who gets hurt is himself, like when he refuses to eat. What’s the point of that? He’s the one who’s going to be hungry after all.
He used to eat almost every thing, but now he doesn’t want foods that were proven winners before.
We try not to get caught in his “games” but sometimes I have no choice, for example when he hits his sister.
He’s catching up physically, he is growing about an inch per month, but emotionally and developmentally he’s still behind for his age. He seems attached, but still fights us from time to time like testing us. I know it’s going to take years, who knows what he went through in his early childhood. He won’t talk about his life before coming home and we don’t force him; sometimes I suspect he doesn’t remember much, as if his life started the moment he met us.
Feven is still the same sweet little troublemaker and when she does something she knows is not right, she will flutter her eyelids and give you the best smile to try to gain your forgiveness.
Sometimes it nice to be able to focus in just one little kid at a time, it’s good for them too, with no competition around, no jealousy.
Dylan is also very helpful, and has been babysitting both Feromsa and Feven when I need a break.
I’m making the most of this weekend with Feven and Miguel is doing the same with Feromsa, and also I’m catching up with a lot of things at home!

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