The day after we arrived in Ethiopia we went to the Toukoul Orphanage to meet our children for the first time.
The Orphanage is only a 5 minute drive from the Guest House. After going through a dirt road you get to the entrance, the famous blue gates that are in so many Toukoul videos.
Behind those gates there is another world, a world of children running in the big yard, playing ball or hopscotch, or in their uniforms getting ready for school.
Blankets spread on the lawn covered with babies sunbathing under the watchful eyes of their nannies. Cloth lines overloaded with children cloths and bed sheets drying in the sun and swung by the wind.
The children of Toukoul are always ready for a hug, a kiss, and of course for a picture. They love it when you take pictures of them, and they love it even more if you let them watch themselves in the digital camera screen.
There are women that come and go taking care of the daily chores, men that drive parents, nurses or whoever needs to go somewhere in the big vans, or that simply open and close the gates to let cars in and out while they chat or say hello to each other in that particular Ethiopian greeting that seems never to end: three kisses on the cheeks, hi how are you, very well thanks and you, I’m good and how’s everything going, great and how are your things… and so on…
Inside the Orphanage near the main office there is a room with a few couches and chairs that is the place where parents have the chance to meet their children for the first time.
If you stay at one of the Guest Houses of the Orphanage, there are a few possibilities to visit and get to know your children. One possibility is to go to the Orphanage every day in the morning and see your children in the visiting room until noon and then come back in the afternoon until 6 PM.
Another choice is to check them out for the day so they can spend time with you at the Guest House and then return them to the Orphanage for dinner. The third possibility is to check them out of the Toukoul for good.
Many parents choose to visit them during the day at the Orphanage so they can have time to travel, visit the city or go shopping.
We started the first two days by visiting them there and then we decided to take them to spend the day with us at the Guest House but the problem was that the return to the Orphanage every night was very traumatic for Feromsa who maybe thought we were abandoning him.
That’s why after the second time doing that we decided to check them out for good so they could share our stay at the Guest House.
Even if this prevented us from doing some things we have planned before, I still think it was the best for the kids and for us since it gave us the opportunity to get to know each other before the long plane trip home.
About the Orphanage, I only have good things to say. The children were taken good care of and were well fed in a clean and happy environment. The nannies as well as the rest of the staff working at the Toukoul treated them with affection.
Inside the Orphanage there is a small gift shop where we bought some things. All the proceeds of the sales go back to the Toukoul, so I recommend all parents to go and take a look at what they have, since by buying something you will help the Orphanage.
The day we checked out the children we were able to see their bedrooms and their little beds and we said goodbye to the nannies that took care of them all these past months.
As a goodbye gift, they gave us two hand stitched backpacks with traditional Ethiopian outfits for the kids. We also left two suitcases full of donations for the children.
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In the US there are two Agencies that work with the Toukoul, Adoption Avenues and Dove. There are other US agencies that do not have direct presence in Ethiopia but use the services of one of these two agencies. The majority of the other adoptions in this Orphanage are for agencies in France.
In conclusion, I found the Toukoul to be a calm and happy place for children despite some scarcities and that sad situation of all those children still need a family of their own.
If you are interested to know more about the Toukoul or if you want to make a contribution, here you have three links in French. The third one has many interesting articles about the Orphanage, Ethiopia and adoption:
Friends of Toukoul (in French)
S.O.S.Enfants Ethiopie(in French)
Passerelle - Enfants d’ Ethiopie (in French)
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackWhat a wonderful post. I love to hear all about te children and the details of the orphanage. Thanks for sharing.
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[...] UPDATE: If you want to read our opinion of the Toukoul Orphanage after our travel to Ethiopia please read this post: The children of TouKoul [...]
Me alegro mucho de que por lo menos sois vosotros los que han elegido la opción de tener con vosotros en el hotel a los niños. Desde España la cosa cambia mucho; hay comunidades en las que los niños no pueden salir de la casa de acogida con sus padres adoptivos ( con la sentencia ) hasta el día de regreso a España, o en otras en las que incluso las familias no pueden salir del hotel sin el representante…es muy curioso que el país tenga un comportamiento tan distinto con las familias adoptivas. Aunque yo dudo que esto sea una medida del gobierno etíope unicamente; creo que hay algo más que no nos cuentan a las familias españolas.
De nuevo felicidades por tus hijos.
wow… LOVE your blog. I have stumbled across a gold mine of information and comfort!!
We’re adopting a waiting sibling set through Adoption Avenues. They are at Toukoul. It is so wonderful to read good things about the place where my daughters are!!!
I’m in the nail-biting waiting stage… I think it goes a little differently when you adopt waiting kids in that you don’t wait for a referral, but the rest is the same. Right now, our Dossier is in Ethiopia being translated and legalized.
That’s where we’re at… Hoping to get information about our court date soon! IT will be so wonderful to read your blog during these next, anxiety-ridden months!
I’m so excited to find your blog. I tried to leave a comment before but my computer is being silly… so if you get a duplicate comment I apologize.
We are currently in the process of adopting a waiting sibling set through Adoption Avenues. Our girls are in Toukoul.
Right now we’re at the translating and legalizing stage for our dossier… anxiously awaiting news and possibly a court date (I hope it comes soon!) Anyway, this is a wonderful gold mine of information, thank you from the bottom of my heart for making such a great effort to document resources and ways to educate ourselves in the Amharic language and the Ethiopian culture. I’ll be coming back a lot, especially during this next, nail-biting few months.
–Sarah
No entiendo que ha pasado con mi mensaje, lo has borrado?
Marina
No he borrado tu mensaje, lo que sucede que este fin de semana no tuve acceso a Internet y no tuve la posibilidad de aprobarlo hasta hoy…
Perdon, Ya estoy de vuelta conectada a la red!
En cuanto a lo que comentas de poder retirar los niños del Orfanato realmente a nosotros no nos han puesto ninguna restriccion, incluso a pesar que antes de viajar aqui nos sugirieron que no pasearamos por las calles de Addis con los niños. La coordinadora de la Casa de Huespedes sin embargo, nos dijo que no habia ningun problema siempre que fueramos discretos y respetaramos las costumbres locales. Por ley una vez que la Corte de justicia etiopie aprueba la adopcion, nosotros somos los padres legales de los niños y nadie nos puede prohibir estar con ellos o pasear por el pais mientras esperamos los pasaportes para poder viajar fuera de Etiopia.
Ademas si en algun momento regresamos a Etiopia con los niños, que haremos? encerrarlos en un hotel para que no nos vean con ellos? Cual es la diferencia entre ahora y dentro de unos años? Siguen siendo nuestros hijos y tienen derecho a estar con nosotros todo el tiempo.
Pero bueno, no se como sera las leyes en España, y si realmente es algo de España, Estados Unidos o Etiopia o tiene mas que ver con las agencias de adopcion.
Saludos
AliciA
Gracias por contestarme Alicia. Me alegro de que pudieses disfrutar de Addis.
Un abrazo
Marina
Alicia- do you know if it is possible, especially once a person has met and established some kind of relationship with Toukoul, to adopt outside of the agency system–e.g. through an attorney there in ET (or ?) We are nearly at the point of travelling to ET for our new daughter (age 12) and we expect to adopt again. Would rather the bulk of our monies go to the orphanage directly rather than an American agency if that is possible. Gracias!
As far as I know, I don’t think it’s possible, but I might be wrong. Adoption is quite a complicated process and I’m not sure if there are adoption lawerys in Ethiopia able to handle everything. Maybe you should ask the people at Toukoul, or contact the orphanage founder before travelling. If you are planning to adopt an older child, there are many agencies that keep a list (I believe Tree of Life is one of them) of waiting children and the adoption is usually faster and cheaper.
Hi my name is Eden Guy and I am from Toukoul, I came here in 2008 and I am 14 years old. I love your blog, and I was just wandering if you can help me with finding some people from Toukoul so I don’t have to forget my language right now I don’t even speak it that much.PLLLLEEEEAAASSSEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Eden, the people I know from Toukoul are mostly very young children, so I don’t know how to help you.
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